You are not alone, trust me.
Are you playing from the phone? This I ask because it has a failing, you cannot cancel Negotiations from the portable version... and it sounds like you have an offer on that player. He was automatically put on the list if that is the case. If you can log in via computer you can cancel it, or wait for it to expire. Guys that you do not want listed? Well, they are selected by being right below the next * so you need to keep them away from that point.