1: Know your friends.....if you don't like when they start out of nowhere a friendly match, ask them to stop and if they don't, remove them as a friend so it will never happen again

2: Bidding is not who bid as last person in one round. Winning a bid is meaning that you have to make the most bids. One more bid (token) then the opponent wil result in a winning bid. Winning a bid spending 1 token happens not that much. Just keep bidding EACH round 1 token. It's just the way this works. Keep a balancing in how much tokens you can/want to spend.

3: getting skill points out of a match is good, but remember that a younger player always getting more skill points than older players. It's not that odd if you play a match and your older players do not receive any skill points at all.......look at their skill-bars to watch the skill-progression meter. It's just in the game that younger players will getting skill points much easier/faster than older ones