First of all: no video game should make you this angry. If it does, maybe it's really best to distance yourself from it.

Second: it's only a simulation with a game engine, not real football. Every change you make in a match will be analyzed by the game engine, which decides, if it likes your tactic/change or not, and it will reward/punish you for it accordingly. Take a look at the possesion bar and if your player ratings flash up green/red after making a change (where to pass the ball, attacking/defending mentality, etc.). Getting a yellow card on one of your players can mean that the game engine doesn't like that player in that match, so try swapping him out.

It's only a simulation, so try playing around with the inputs for the game engine and see what works every match.