I really don't think the problem is coming from the formation, because 4-1-4-1, does cover everything, without having too many players in the back. A Red arrow on the DMC, will help though.

kebess same as mine OP . last time i lost 1-0 he was playing 4-1-3w-2 .. and me playing with 4-1-4-1 .. he score form free kick ..

tomorrow i have match with him .. which formation you advice ?!
I can't properly advice without knowing more, : (

In the worse case scenario, if no formation seems to work, either take your best players and build a formation around it, or simply play the same formation as him... 4-1-3W-2 (if your team is better); then monitor your orders in the live game.
Start with something standard, like Normal mentality, mixed passes, hard tackles (if you're behind on the possession), no trap, no counter.

Then change it accordingly. If you're not having enough shots, try switching to attacking mentality and see what happens, or putting red arrows on ML/MR, and trying flanks passes for a while, that sort of things.

When nothing seems to work, you really need to be active in the game, and be ready to change things following the logic of the game.