Well, too bad I didn't read your post earlier.
Counter-attacking tactics and short passing (especially through the middle) are like Millwall and West Ham fans. With 4-1-4-1 your orders shoud've been something like this:
normal/defensive mentality
passing- mixed/down both flanks
pressing- own half
tackling- normal
passes-mixed/long
marking-zonal
I don't like the "force counter" order and absolutely hate the "offside trap" one, so I don't use them.
For the re-match you shoud use a more attacking setup, like the 3-1-4-2, attacking mentality, mixed passing, pressing- whole pitch, hard tackling, mixed passes, zonal marking and only if your CD's are quick- offside trap!
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