Well if you're using 4-5-1 V-style then I'd use these orders: Defensive mentality, Passing down both flanks, own half pressing, hard tackling, mixed passing, zonal marking and force counter attacks. Red arrows on striker and your aml and amr. You could use attacking, but if you do then counter must be off. I normally use defensive when I have a stronger opponent, as they are likely to be attacking or normal.

Like I said though, it would be useful for me and anyone else trying to help if we could ave a screenshot of your and his teams.