you can't run red arrows on your defenders (unless they are scout level or higher) without going high pressing/offside trap. Putting counterattacks on means you are allowing them space to get into your half and then attempting to win the ball and attack quickly. Your orders/tactics are counterintuitive to this and this is why you are losing. Your defenders are getting caught up the pitch and you are losing possession/conceding because of it. The only formation i could see your current orders working against would be 5-4-1/5-3-1-1 and nobody plays it.