You are just making your own story and interpretation. And be sure that the reason why we the mods answer many questions/discussion that we receive via PM, isn't to expose publicly these messages.
It's compatible, keep a respect for the private conversations, and point&discuss openly any issue. Do you want me to start opening posts and doing copy/paste of all PMs I have? really you want me exposing people like this?
And yeah, the public response, could be the same as the private message, but IMO thats about courtesy, is that simple, there's no need to convert this in something personal against the person who try to help you.